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How do teens see romantic relationships?

“In a relationship – Love and abuse among Gen Z & Alpha”

 

While YouTube, Instagram, and TikTok are the primary sources of information for young people in Romania, when it comes to matters of romance and sexuality, they rely more on family and friends.

 

  • This insight comes from a recent survey conducted by the Friends for Friends Foundation and Reveal Marketing Research.
  • YouTube, Instagram, and TikTok are the main sources of Information for young people, however, when it comes to learning about their sex lives, they turn to family and friends, according to the cited survey, applied to a sample of Romanian people, aged 16-25.
  • When it comes to abuse, emotional abuse leads especially among girls (52%), but also among boys (38%).
  • 28-29% of young people accuses digital abuse, while physical abuse is perceived by a quarter of the girls sample and 16% of the interviewed boys.

Pornography as a model for sex education

The study revealed that 10% of boys and 6% of girls use pornography as a reference for sex education. Researchers examined five forms of abuse—emotional, physical, sexual, financial, and digital—to better understand young people’s experiences in relationships.

Sources of information

Girls favor Instagram and TikTok over boys

Young people primarily seek information online, though television remains a significant source, with 31% still tuning in for updates.

The most frequently used sources of information are:

  • YouTube (58%)
  • Instagram (43%)
  • TikTok (43%)
  • Facebook (39%)
  • TV (31%)
  • Romanian websites (26%)
  • Influencers and content creators (21%)
  • Foreign websites (16%)
  • Discord (7%)
  • Radio (7%)

Other key findings include:

  • 39% of young people say their parents approve of their romantic relationships but want detailed information about them.
  • 45% of respondents have encountered emotional abuse in relationships—either as victims, perpetrators, or witnesses.
  • 1 in 10 teenagers and young adults lack a close adult or peer with whom they feel comfortable discussing romantic relationships and sexuality.

Additionally, 17% of young people have only one peer they can confide in about these topics, while:

  • 15% talk to more than three peers,
  • 24% have one trusted adult for guidance,
  • 17% discuss these topics with more than three adults,
  • 15% feel comfortable talking to multiple people.

Where do teens learn about sex?

When it comes to sex education, the main sources of information are:

  • Family (51%)
  • More experienced friends (36%)
  • School and online communities/publications (both at 27%)

Teenagers aged 14-15 rely more on family (61%) and school (43%) for information than older age groups. However, 10% of boys and 6% of girls admit to using pornography as a model for understanding sex.

Parental attitudes toward romantic relationships

Most young people (39%) report that their parents accept their romantic relationships but are eager to know as many details as possible. This attitude is most common among 14-15-year-olds (46%) and 16-19-year-olds (42%), decreasing with age (31% among 20-25-year-olds).

Interestingly, parents of boys tend to be more inquisitive than parents of girls, with 44% of boys stating that their parents seek details compared to 34% of girls.

Girls are more exposed to abuse

Expotion to abuse is whether as victims, witnesses, or even perpetrators

The study examined five forms of abuse—emotional, physical, sexual, financial, and digital—to assess young people’s experiences.

When asked directly whether they had been a victim, perpetrator, or witness to these forms of abuse, respondents reported relatively low numbers.

However, when questioned about specific behaviors associated with abuse (without explicitly labelling them as such), reports increased significantly.

For three out of five forms of abuse, girls reported higher exposure than boys—whether as victims, witnesses, or even perpetrators.

  • Emotional abuse: 52% of girls vs. 38% of boys (45% overall)
  • Physical abuse: 24% of girls vs. 16% of boys (20% overall)
  • Sexual abuse: 12% of girls vs. 7% of boys (10% overall)
  • Digital abuse: No significant gender differences (28% overall)
  • Financial abuse: No significant gender differences (12% overall)

Girls are more likely to Identify and acknowledge abuse

“The data reveals a stark contrast between girls and boys in the sample,” explains psychologist Silvia Ciubotaru (Guță), coordinator of the In a Relationship project.

“Girls tend to have a more extensive emotional vocabulary, which allows them to better recognize abusive situations and even take responsibility for their own actions as aggressors. This doesn’t necessarily mean that girls are more aggressive than boys – rather, they are more aware and capable of identifying abuse when it occurs.”

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